been awhile since i felt some happiness in my life... yep yep... im feeling better today... or should i say im pretty happy today =pPp well... my blog cant possibly be only unhappiness and nothing else right? heheh..
everything that i was hoping for today went better than expected... from the time of studying to the point of going home and to the point of chatting on msn... hopefully things will continue to go right... i will post more details when the time is ripe ;)
Friday, August 31, 2007
Thursday, August 30, 2007
Turning Unhappiness into Joy
read something from the Newpaper today and found it rather interesting... thought i would share it with you all:
Anyone can be happy. Happiness is a skill that can be taught and learnt.
The first thing we can do is to change the way we think.
We blame our unhappiness on other people or outside things or events.
In reality, our subconsious ways of thinking or interpreting things create our upsets.
Unhappiness is a largely self-inflicted agony.
An identical event - for example, cancer - happening to two people, can trigger completely different responses from them.
One may be unable to accept such an unfair affliction and become stuck in resentment, fear and helplessness.
The other may see cancer as a very common occurence which also happened to her. She proceeds to handle its treatment in a calm, intelligent manner. She sees the enforced down-time as an opportunity to play mahjong - a game she loves but never has the time for.
How could one person be struck in bitterness and powerlessness and another sees cancer as an opportunity for enjoyment.
It is not what happens to us that makes us unhappy, but how we interpret what happened that causes unhappiness.
The actions we take can make the difference between surviving and growing from a challenge or being killed by it.
Without our being aware of it, our minds are incessantly analysing, judging, interpreting and making meanings about everything and everyone we encounter in our lives.
Our ceaseless meaning-making is always unconscious and too frequently, our assumptions and conclusions create stress, unhappiness, fear and powerlessness in us.
The quality and content of our lives today have been created from those millions of unconscious meanings we made about everything. Changing our thoughts ultimately changes our lives.
Study after study confirms that happy people live healthier and longer lives than unhappy ones.
Happiness is not a luxury to be enjoyed only when all the circumstances in our lives are perfect - it is fundamental to our quality of life, health and longevity now.
The second path to happiness lies in changing our personal world - to create the work, activities, relationships, experiences and things which bring us joy, peace of mind, purpose and success.
When we pour our greatest creativity, energy, enthusiasm and love into doing what we enjoy and are passionate about, the ideal conditions for success and fulfilment are right there.
-Wong Chia Siew
Anyone can be happy. Happiness is a skill that can be taught and learnt.
The first thing we can do is to change the way we think.
We blame our unhappiness on other people or outside things or events.
In reality, our subconsious ways of thinking or interpreting things create our upsets.
Unhappiness is a largely self-inflicted agony.
An identical event - for example, cancer - happening to two people, can trigger completely different responses from them.
One may be unable to accept such an unfair affliction and become stuck in resentment, fear and helplessness.
The other may see cancer as a very common occurence which also happened to her. She proceeds to handle its treatment in a calm, intelligent manner. She sees the enforced down-time as an opportunity to play mahjong - a game she loves but never has the time for.
How could one person be struck in bitterness and powerlessness and another sees cancer as an opportunity for enjoyment.
It is not what happens to us that makes us unhappy, but how we interpret what happened that causes unhappiness.
The actions we take can make the difference between surviving and growing from a challenge or being killed by it.
Without our being aware of it, our minds are incessantly analysing, judging, interpreting and making meanings about everything and everyone we encounter in our lives.
Our ceaseless meaning-making is always unconscious and too frequently, our assumptions and conclusions create stress, unhappiness, fear and powerlessness in us.
The quality and content of our lives today have been created from those millions of unconscious meanings we made about everything. Changing our thoughts ultimately changes our lives.
Study after study confirms that happy people live healthier and longer lives than unhappy ones.
Happiness is not a luxury to be enjoyed only when all the circumstances in our lives are perfect - it is fundamental to our quality of life, health and longevity now.
The second path to happiness lies in changing our personal world - to create the work, activities, relationships, experiences and things which bring us joy, peace of mind, purpose and success.
When we pour our greatest creativity, energy, enthusiasm and love into doing what we enjoy and are passionate about, the ideal conditions for success and fulfilment are right there.
-Wong Chia Siew
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
Flipping Thru The Old Stuff
i was tidying up my room as it was pretty much in a mess... it was plain to see that there wasnt any place for me to store my new notes... so a thorough clean up was in order... while sorting out some of the stuff, i chanced upon several items...
one of which was a photo album containing the photos me and yj took together for the 3 years that we were together... memories started to flood my mind as i flipped through the pages... all the places that we went together, all the happy times we had, all the funny faces we made, and all the time we spent... i really missed the times...
another item of which is actually a collection of the cards and letters that me n yj wrote to each other... among which were birthday cards, valentine's day cards as well as other letters... as i read through the contents, i could feel the love that we had at that particular point of time...
there were also the presents that she made and stuff that she bought for me... i can understand all the effort that she made to give those gifts... i really do...
after seeing these stuff, i realised how much i missed her... i missed hearing her voice, i missed talking to her even if its on msn, and how i wish i could tell her how much she still means to me even at this point of time... somehow i still cant bear to face her, even if it means just chatting to her on msn... i suppose its because i have yet to get over her...
if someone were to ask me now, if there's anyone new in my life... my answer will be "No"... if someone were to ask me, is there anyone new that you love, my answer will again be "No"... but if someone were to ask me, do u still love yj, my answer would be "Yes"... i think that answers everything doesnt it?
one of which was a photo album containing the photos me and yj took together for the 3 years that we were together... memories started to flood my mind as i flipped through the pages... all the places that we went together, all the happy times we had, all the funny faces we made, and all the time we spent... i really missed the times...
another item of which is actually a collection of the cards and letters that me n yj wrote to each other... among which were birthday cards, valentine's day cards as well as other letters... as i read through the contents, i could feel the love that we had at that particular point of time...
there were also the presents that she made and stuff that she bought for me... i can understand all the effort that she made to give those gifts... i really do...
after seeing these stuff, i realised how much i missed her... i missed hearing her voice, i missed talking to her even if its on msn, and how i wish i could tell her how much she still means to me even at this point of time... somehow i still cant bear to face her, even if it means just chatting to her on msn... i suppose its because i have yet to get over her...
if someone were to ask me now, if there's anyone new in my life... my answer will be "No"... if someone were to ask me, is there anyone new that you love, my answer will again be "No"... but if someone were to ask me, do u still love yj, my answer would be "Yes"... i think that answers everything doesnt it?
Wednesday, August 22, 2007
My Horoscope for this Week
Aquarius
[Jan 21 - Feb 19]
You still seem to be hankering after something from long ago. Nostalgia and sentimentality are good things, but don't forget that the past is gone and that the future is bearing down on you rapidly.
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this week's horoscope seems so true for me... keep thinking of the past, wanting something that i can no longer have... should i let it go? but its easier said than done i suppose... whats the future that's quickly bearing down on me also? i wish i knew..............
[Jan 21 - Feb 19]
You still seem to be hankering after something from long ago. Nostalgia and sentimentality are good things, but don't forget that the past is gone and that the future is bearing down on you rapidly.
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this week's horoscope seems so true for me... keep thinking of the past, wanting something that i can no longer have... should i let it go? but its easier said than done i suppose... whats the future that's quickly bearing down on me also? i wish i knew..............
Tuesday, August 21, 2007
Friends
i believe that no one in this world can say that they are without friends... some of us have lots of friends while some of us have few friends... it doesnt matter how many friends one have, but its the quality of the friends that counts... when i say quality, i actually mean true friends... friends that will stick with you no matter what happens... friends that will always be there for you, to listen to your problems, your sorrows and friends that will share your happiness with... friends are more than just people you hang out with, go chilling with, shopping with, chatting with etc...
to a certain extend, its easy to make new friends... after meeting once, he/she/they become your new-found friend(s)... but how many of them will be able to be one that you are able to confide in ... how many of them will be able to earn your absolute trust to tell them things that you never think of telling others, and maybe even your family members...
there are no right or wrong ways in which a friend should behave towards another one, as people have different personalities... however the basic attitude that friends should have towards one another should be relatively similar... one thing for certain, friends should be true to another... no point being friends if u cant even be truthful to one another...
as friends we should consistently show care and concern for each other... otherwise, whats the point in being friends? maybe different people have different ways of showing care and concern for their friends, but sometimes it doesnt hurt to be more open about it would it?
close friends arent determined by how long the friendship has been but how much they have been through together... a friend of 1 yr can be closer than a friend of 10yrs...
friends are precious and are almost a neccesasity in life for everyone... no one can live without friends... so please treasure all your friends around you and dont be afraid to show how much you care for them...
to a certain extend, its easy to make new friends... after meeting once, he/she/they become your new-found friend(s)... but how many of them will be able to be one that you are able to confide in ... how many of them will be able to earn your absolute trust to tell them things that you never think of telling others, and maybe even your family members...
there are no right or wrong ways in which a friend should behave towards another one, as people have different personalities... however the basic attitude that friends should have towards one another should be relatively similar... one thing for certain, friends should be true to another... no point being friends if u cant even be truthful to one another...
as friends we should consistently show care and concern for each other... otherwise, whats the point in being friends? maybe different people have different ways of showing care and concern for their friends, but sometimes it doesnt hurt to be more open about it would it?
close friends arent determined by how long the friendship has been but how much they have been through together... a friend of 1 yr can be closer than a friend of 10yrs...
friends are precious and are almost a neccesasity in life for everyone... no one can live without friends... so please treasure all your friends around you and dont be afraid to show how much you care for them...
Saturday, August 18, 2007
Im Still Feeling Frustrated
damn it... im still feeling frustrated as the past few days had been... i seriously dont like the way im feeling right now... i dont know what would be the right word or words to use to describe how im feeling exactly right now, all that i can say is im feeling edgy, frustrated and pissed off at the moment... dont ask me why im feeling this way, cause i dont have a clue at all... i need to sort out my feelings asap and straightened out my life...
Friday, August 17, 2007
2 Little Stories
2 stories for u to read and think about...
there was this boy, he was always struggling with his math subject in his school, almost all the result that he got from his exams were FAIL or BARELY PASS. After Months of Hard Work and advice he got from his tutor, he finally got and 75/100, that may not be a fantastic result, but that was nonetheless a Good result.
He went back home happily, looking for his mum, the moment his mum saw him and knew that the boy got his result that day, she said: " You must have failed again". The boy determined to prove his mum about her mistake, was expecting a apologize from her and a hug from her to encourage him. He took out his result slip to show his mum, but her mum said: "OK, Not BAD", and continued watching the t.v programme.
Sometimes, Life is SAD. Sad in a funny way, because you know that although you are surrounded with friend and family, but they do not really look into you, they will not get truly sad when you get sad, or they do not really get happy when you get happy.
Are they your friends/family? I am SURE they are.
But they may be really just too tired to put too much attention into you, or they are too engage into other people/activities/work/game/themselves.
*eNjOy*
there was this boy, he was always struggling with his math subject in his school, almost all the result that he got from his exams were FAIL or BARELY PASS. After Months of Hard Work and advice he got from his tutor, he finally got and 75/100, that may not be a fantastic result, but that was nonetheless a Good result.
He went back home happily, looking for his mum, the moment his mum saw him and knew that the boy got his result that day, she said: " You must have failed again". The boy determined to prove his mum about her mistake, was expecting a apologize from her and a hug from her to encourage him. He took out his result slip to show his mum, but her mum said: "OK, Not BAD", and continued watching the t.v programme.
Sometimes, Life is SAD. Sad in a funny way, because you know that although you are surrounded with friend and family, but they do not really look into you, they will not get truly sad when you get sad, or they do not really get happy when you get happy.
Are they your friends/family? I am SURE they are.
But they may be really just too tired to put too much attention into you, or they are too engage into other people/activities/work/game/themselves.
*eNjOy*
Tuesday, August 14, 2007
Im Suffocating
i dont know what's going on with me recently... i seem to be on a pretty thin fuse, and i feel so stressed up inside of me if i can call it that... seems to be storing alot of stuff in me, not wanting to let others know... not even those im especially close with... maybe these are times when people say "there are things in life where u have to handle on your own"... maybe these are issues that i have to undertake myself, and no one else is able to help me with...
blogging would seem to be a good way for me to let things out without having to repeat or tell anyone else... i dont need anyone's sympathy and i for damn sure do not need anyone to pity me for what im going through...
a fren recently pointed out a cold hard truth to me... something that i hate to admit, but i guess its true... she said "since when have u become so pessismistic..." when i come to think of it, i used to look on the bright side of things... no matter how glum the situation may seem like, im always able to find a way to look at it from another angle... but ever since then, i dare not hope for much... i dare not even think of looking at it from another view... after seeing something so full of hope burst like a bubble right in my face, how can i convince myself that it wont happen again?
im gona fight my battles alone.................................
blogging would seem to be a good way for me to let things out without having to repeat or tell anyone else... i dont need anyone's sympathy and i for damn sure do not need anyone to pity me for what im going through...
a fren recently pointed out a cold hard truth to me... something that i hate to admit, but i guess its true... she said "since when have u become so pessismistic..." when i come to think of it, i used to look on the bright side of things... no matter how glum the situation may seem like, im always able to find a way to look at it from another angle... but ever since then, i dare not hope for much... i dare not even think of looking at it from another view... after seeing something so full of hope burst like a bubble right in my face, how can i convince myself that it wont happen again?
im gona fight my battles alone.................................
Sunday, August 12, 2007
Im Damn Pissed !!!
i took the effort and limited resources that i have to organise a freaking bbq for my frenz (army, poly, sec) and end up what do i get? i get **** up attitude and a pissed off time of bbq... can you imagine that peopl who volunteer to help u out by coming earlier, tell u at the last minute that they cant make it, or they dont even bother to inform you that they will be late or cant even make it at all? giving lame excuses doesnt exactly help to appease the situation as well...
i think some people really think that we owe them something... after eating, they dont even bother to help to clear up... i had to clear up the whole area until the end where some people helped me out... grateful to those who helped me out there ;) to those who 'kindly' offered to help out when there was nothing left to clear, go figure...
if u ppl think that just because i have a car, im obliged to drive u ppl around, please think about it again... im not ur chauffeur...
sometimes, people dont realise that it is their small actions that turn people off... maybe they are too insensitive to realise it, but i must say there is a limit to it...
maybe im too frustrated and irritated right now, thats why im feeling so pissed off... not to mention the toothache that im having right now... hopefully tml will be fine... but then, i want to thank those who came and did help out... thanks alot =)
i think some people really think that we owe them something... after eating, they dont even bother to help to clear up... i had to clear up the whole area until the end where some people helped me out... grateful to those who helped me out there ;) to those who 'kindly' offered to help out when there was nothing left to clear, go figure...
if u ppl think that just because i have a car, im obliged to drive u ppl around, please think about it again... im not ur chauffeur...
sometimes, people dont realise that it is their small actions that turn people off... maybe they are too insensitive to realise it, but i must say there is a limit to it...
maybe im too frustrated and irritated right now, thats why im feeling so pissed off... not to mention the toothache that im having right now... hopefully tml will be fine... but then, i want to thank those who came and did help out... thanks alot =)
Sunday, August 5, 2007
Saturday, August 4, 2007
Do You Remember?
do you remember what u said when i told u i find this song very meaningful and very nice?
do you remember telling me that you dont want to listen to this song because it brings back bad memories for you?
then, do you know this is what im feeling right now?
do you remember telling me that you dont want to listen to this song because it brings back bad memories for you?
then, do you know this is what im feeling right now?
BB Mak - Ghost Of You And Me
What am I supposed to do
With all these blues
Haunting me, everywhere, no matter what I do
Watching the candle flicker out in the evening glow
I cant let go
When will this night be over
I didn't mean to fall in love with you
And baby there's a name for what you put me through
It isn't love, it's robbery
I'm sleeping with the ghost of you and me
Seen a lot of broken hearts go sailing by
Phantom ships, lost at sea
And one of them is mine
Raising my glass, I sing a toast to the midnight sky
I wonder why
The stars don't seem to guide me
I didn't mean to fall in love with you
And baby there's a name for what you put me through
It isn't love, it's robbery
I'm sleeping with the ghost of you and me
The ghost of you and me
When will it set me free
I hear the voices call
Following footsteps down the hall
Trying to save what's left of my heart and soul
Watching the candle flicker out in the evening glow
I can't let go
When will this night be over
I didn't mean to fall in love with you
And baby there's a name for what you put me through
It isn't love, it's robbery
I'm sleeping with the ghost of you and me
I didn't mean to fall in love with you
And baby there's a name for what you put me through
It isn't love, it's robbery
I'm sleeping with the ghost of you and me
Friday, August 3, 2007
I Wasted Another Chance Again -.-"
met her in school today after one of my lectures... saw her walking in my direction with a fren of hers... as she walked closer, i had the urge to walk up and say hi, but when i saw she was with a fren, i didnt dare to say hi... i felt kinda awkward if i did say hi... so it was like i said, she only remembers my name but not who i am... =( sad case dont you think... so far out of three lectures, she's in none of the classes as me and tomorrow is the last one... so if i dont see her tomorrow in class, that means both of us have totally different time slots... sorry to disappoint those who had hopes that i would be able to do something about it...
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